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This blog post is just another typical Rika's jokes. But if you ever said this to any 'exotic' looking human being, please don't do that anymore. - You are pretty FOR ASIAN. Sure, because post-colonialist, mainstream media beauty standard will not allow us, Asian, to be as pretty as blonde white women. - You speak English so well, did you go to undergrad here in the US? Yeah, they don't speak English in any other country, only in the US - This is amazing that you grew up in a Muslim family, in the largest Muslim country in the world, but you are so open-minded. Tell me again about your religious American family that is anti-LGBT, anti-immigration, and how you argue with them. - But it's very stupid that people have to wear hijab in a hot and humid country like Indonesia. They must be oppressed. Why people wear mid-drift and mini-skirt in the middle of a freezing winter night in Michigan? They must be oppressed. - Have you ever see a skyscraper? Do

Pekan lalu saya tepat menjadi 30 tahun. Sering saya dengar 30 adalah angka keramat, si dirty thirty. Jadilah 30 sering menjadi hal besar. Konon rezim perawatan kecantikan agar terlihat muda juga dimulai sejak usia 30. Katanya, mulai 30 tahun, kulit kita kehilangan kolagen, sehingga tak kencang lagi. Kulit juga tak mulus lagi, dan mudah timbul bercak hitam. Selain itu, metabolisme perempuan juga menjadi semakin lambat, sehingga akan mudah sekali menambah berat badan. Kalau belum menikah, segeralah menikah, karena laki-laki tak tertarik pada perawan tua. Kalau belum punya anak, segeralah berusaha memberi momongan karena tubuh kita tak lagi perkasa untuk hamil dan melahirkan. Banyak betul momok mengerikan tentang 30an. Saya tidak tahu apakah kapitalisme atau patriarki yang menciptakan momok tersebut. Yang pasti, kapitalisme membonceng isu-isu tersebut, dan mengambil keuntungan sedalam-dalamnya, seluas-luasnya. Kapitalisme berusaha membuat perempuan 30an kehilangan kepercayaan diri,